Parenting vs. Marriage

Some people have asked this question: Which is harder, parenting or marriage? Hmmm....let me think. Well, for a few reasons I think I'm going to say that parenting is more difficult. Why? Well, for a few reasons that I list here:

1. My husband has never puked, pooped or peed on me. Never. However, all three of my kids have done all of these things on me. More than once.

2. My husband's choices in life do not reflect on me. Yeah, if he makes a bad choice people may wonder what I was thinking, being married to him and all. However, when my children make bad choices, people will say it's because Tom and I did something to screw them up.

3. It is not my job to shape my husband into the person that he is meant to be. His parents did the hard part. It's my job to keep my relationship with him close and strong. With my children, it's my job to make them who they are to become; or at least start them out on the correct path towards a positive and successful future. I am only here to love and support my husband as he walks his path in life.

4. I'm not in charge of the little things for my husband. He can take care of brushing his teeth, going to the bathroom and washing his own hair. With my children they all still require some level of support during grooming activities. It's on me if one of them shows up to the dentist with 16 cavities.

5. Children have Bad table manners? Again, on me.

6. Bullying, mean, crass or inappropriate behavior coming from my children? Once again, on me!

So, from the looks of things...the hardest part of marriage so far is learning to communicate with each other and finding time to spend together just the two of us. The hardest part about parenting? All of it! Because even the sweet amazing moments that come with being a parent are few and fleeting. So, turn to you partner in life and thank them for not pooping on you.