I have ADHD. I was diagnosed 2 years ago and it made a lot of things in my life make sense. It answered the question as to why I got bored with jobs after just a few months, why I was a terrible roommate in college, why i have a problem with interrupting, and staying organized, and my ability to follow thru is so small that I don't even remember to shut the van door when I leave the van!! :) The list could go on and on and on!!
I do my best, but sometimes the ADHD gets the best of me. Having three children has made it glaringly obvious that I have trouble with inattentiveness and organization. It's a wonder sometimes that my children and I can make it from place to place in one piece and fully dressed! Anyway, I've been really hard on myself these last few months adjusting to three children. When I had one child it was mostly pretty easy to hold it together. I was messy and disorganized, but I could fake it enough that no one really knew! With two children, my house was a total wreck a lot of the time, but out and about I was organized enough to pack the diaper bag and get us places on time. Now since Julianna was born that has all gone out the window. Shoes?? Where?? Keys?? Who Knows!! 10 minutes late to everything? Oh, that's me!!
So, I've been researching some strategies to help make life easier around here (the problem with the strategies is IF THEY WERE EASY TO DO, I WOULD ALREADY BE DOING THEM!!! sorry, tangent!) Anyway, I found an interesting tid bit that I had never read before- Pregnancy relieves some of the symptoms of ADHD!! I suppose all those hormones help your brain to focus to prepare for the new baby. No wonder I've had so much trouble adjusting after each baby is born! I get used to being pretty organized for 9 months, and then BAM!! I'm back to crazy inattentive mom. So, as I try to juggle these three children, without the possibility of any future pregnancies, wish me luck!
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Taylor,
I have ADHD as well. I was diagnosed my senior year of college. Probably why we get along so well! I like that I have ADHD because I think it makes me a better nurse--I can go from one critical situation to the next very easily and I enjoy the fast-pace. I have a hard time reading--do you start at the top of the page, get bored, then move to the middle of the next page? Then you say "Who is Bob?" and have to go back to figure it out?? Caleb is in charge of bills and money, because we would be sitting in the dark if I was in charge! Today I lost my dad's Father's Day gift, and we are already two days late!! Hang in there--ADHD people are the best!
--Jenn
Thanks Jenn! I have not found a good career fit, besides mother, I get bored way to easily! I would love to be a nurse, but that would require needles and studying...two things that i can't handle! :) Yes, I often skip paragraphs and have to go back. Tom has to be in charge of the bills!! What a relief it was to have someone to take care of that for me. Maybe our ADHD was why we lost touch in college...Thanks for reading! :)
Taylor
I'm so sorry that you have struggled so much! I think you are a fantastic, creative, supportive mom and in the end, who cares if your house is a mess? I admire you for having the three kids and still having such a positive outlook! You are GREAT! Can't wait to see you this summer!
Taylor, I think you are an AWESOME mom. My gosh - I think that most people with three little kids are frazzled and a bit unorganized. So what if you forget the swim bag? Your kids learn that it's OK to swim in their underpants. One of my goals in life has been to teach my children that to have to go to Plan B or Plan C is not the end of the world. As long as they've got clothes on and food to eat, who cares if the house is picked up? I'd rather you be out having fun with them while they are little. You ARE a great Mom!
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